Random musings, opinions, thoughts, rants, and contradictions of an educated Black female born in the late '70s from Washington, DC. BE FORWARNED: I have a potty mouth, and I sometimes use the n word more than I should. I prefer mine with an a, however. So if those things bother you, you may wanna keep it movin'.
A Little About D-
Name::D- From::Washington, D.C., United States
I am a young, spirited, articulate African American female. I am definitely not perfect, but I work hard to make each day better than the previous. I am quite opinionated and can be passionate about issues that I truly believe in. Anything else you want to know - ASK! THE POEM ABOVE WAS WRITTEN BY TUPAC AMARU SHAKUR. More About D-
Mood Music: 24 Hour Blue (Just One of Those Days) by Vivian Green from A Love Story
Today has been a day from hell!!! My job and the students truly stressed me the fuck out. I woke up knowing that it was going to be one of those days because I immediately had a headache. I was running 10 minutes late and barely managed to slick my hair back into a ponytail. I had a parent meeting the first thing this morning and that was a waste of time because once again I have parents telling me that they don't know what to do with their child. Even before the stupid ass meeting, I walk in to a TO DO list on my desk in preparation for a big ass visitor this week. Then, my boss comes in to report that 7 girls from my mentoring group showed their asses on the field trip this past Saturday! Did I fail to mention that grades were due by COB??? I sure do need an herbal remedy to help me relax, relate, release. Too bad it's only Monday. I thought that I would be able to post as I usually do on Sunday. But, shit got thick. So here I am now with a mini-recap of my weekend.
Because I need as much positivity as I can get right now, I will start with the good:
Saturday was a beautiful day in Chocolate City! The sun was shining and the skies were blue. So you know it was all good, especially for a gurl with a diamond ring! LOL! But I am happy to proclaim that love is back in the air. Since our last blow out, Jubb has been drinking his Act Right faithfully each morning. LMBAO!! But seriously, we have been doing well and have been actually working to finalize the wedding plans. I have no doubt that our ideas, along with the talented work of AFC, will produce a beautiful wedding. ('sup Tam!)
Bad shit:
My great-grandmother has been in the hospital for the past two weeks now. I haven't blogged about it because I haven't really been able to face it. Grandma had been complaining about upset stomach for weeks. Two Mondays ago she was admitted to the hospital because her doctor didn't like what was going on with her stomach. With the initial tests they weren't sure if it was Pancreatic cancer. Well they ruled that out and said that she had some sort of strand of Hepatitis; one other than the usual A, B, or C strands. Her eyes and skin had jaundiced(yellowed). So they have her moved from a hospital in Mo County to Johns Hopkins in B-more because the Mo County docs don't really know how to treat her. At this time, I'm not too stressed because they have at least ruled out cancer and are moving towards treatment. Well this past weekend I found out that she does have cancer; cancer of the bile and liver or some shit. I was so fucked up when my aunt told me that I didn't really pay attention to the exact name of the cancer. Basically she has a tumor near her liver. I am just so scared! She is 85 years old, y'all. They are saying that they think that they can operate and remove the tumor, but it will take a 6 hour surgery! I am trying to be strong and think positively. But, Grandma is basically one of only a few family members who are truly supportive of me and my success.
Well, I'm too busy to write much more right now. Gotta get ready for the big visitor, so I am on the grind to make sure that my game is tight. I will let you guys know who the visitor is in my next post. Until then....
D- Said It@ ::
6:55 PM ::
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It's Friday and I am in a good mood! I'm listening to one of my favorite cds, Raphael Saadiq's Instant Vintage. Check out the video of him with D'Angelo before his dopefiend days. (so sad) It has been cold as Bitches Brew in the Nation's Capital for the past few days, but today we have lots of sunshine and it's supposed to go all the way up to 48 degrees! (insert sarcastic smiley)
This was a doozy of a week. I had a paper due for my Thursday night class so I have been a little incognegro. Thanks to everyone who read as I vented about my student and his mom. I tell you! You want to see the ills of society? Then become a teacher!
Let's get right to this week's DC Shine. I think I will do two because I am in such a good mood.
Here we go...
This is for my fellow Old Schoolers. Most folk won't even remember my girl, but she had a few hits back in the day. Tell me you remember Love on a Two Way Street and Perfect Combination! She even had a few duets with fellow hometowner, Johnny Gill. Stacie Lattisaw is one of DC's own. She represents for my neck of the woods, Northeast. My mom even went to school with her sisters. I remember vividly that one of them was nicknamed Pig (how mean). I believe that she still lives in the area and is now a born-again Christian a la Pebbles and Vanity. Obscure music fact: Sean "Puffy" Combs was a back up dancer in one of her videos in the early 90s.
Next up we have one of my favorite comedians. He needs no real introduction. Everyone knows Marty Mar! Martin Lawrence was born in Germany, as his parents were in the service. However, he was raised in the Washington, DC area. Martin grew up in Landover, MD, right down the street from Fedex Field, where the Redskins currently play. Go and check out his new movie, Big Momma's House 2, this weekend.
I'm sure I'll be around this weekend. Grades are due Monday, but I am sure I will post at least once. You all have a safe, relaxing weekend.
I couldn't find the correct pic for that fool of a chick, Hottie from the Flava of Love show. However, when I do find it, I will put it up. (and if anyone has one that shows her mess of a weave, please share)
I know that it is only Tuesday, but I need to vent again. This time it is about one of my students and his mother. I absolutely hate weak ass parents!!! Especially those raising black male children!!! Because this is the internet and you never know who is reading what and where, I will change the names. We will call the student Snuffy (for Snuffalupacus sp?) and his mother Ms. Simpleton. Well this is the second year that I have had Snuffy as a student. He is extremely bright, but extremely lazy. Underachiever could be this brother's middle name. He is the type of child who just puts forth little to no effort. With no effort he gets Bs and Cs, so the sky could be the limit if he tried. Snuffy is 14 years old and was retained (held back) in the 4th grade before coming to my school. Ms. Simpleton has been trying to get him declared Special Ed. for the past 4 years, while at the same time she has been trying to get us to promote him to his correct grade. She believes that he is ADHD. He has been tested by DC Public Schools 3 times. Each time they have said that he doesn't qualify for SPED services. But she is still pushing for it. Now, Snuffy's biggest problem is that he doesn't come to school. He skips sometimes twice a week. This is not a new problem because he did the same shit last year. I looked in his file and this boy has been skipping school since third grade. Ms. Simpleton wants to blame it on his disability, but doctors and evaluators have said that this child DOES NOT have a disability. Now here is why I need to vent before I scream:
This is how Snuffy skips according to his mama. She wakes him up. He moves very slowly and takes his time to get ready. When she is ready to walk out the door, he is almost ready. She goes to the car and waits for him to come out. 15 minutes go by and Snuffy is still not out of the house. Ms. Simpleton goes back in and he is laying on the floor or back in the bed. She tells him to get up and leaves him there because she can't be late for work. Instead of catching the bus like she told him to do, he stays at home and plays video games and watches tv all day. Now be reminded, this is straight from Ms. Simpleton's mouth. Have you ever heard of a child so bold that they say fuck it, I'll just skip at home???? and on a regular basis????
So when I ask Ms. Simpleton why she won't just make him leave out the door to get in the car when she does, she says, "I can't make him get in the car, Miss M. I can't just push him in the car. He's too big." So I'm thinking to myself that this is all very interesting. He's not bigger than her, but she can't make him get in the car. You all have to understand that I am shocked as shit now because I have never heard of a situation where the child is in complete and total control. Now I may have read about some shit like this, or saw something like it on tv. But in real life, hell no! Shit like that just never happened with the folks who raised me. How can a child dictate to his parent what he will and will not do????
So Ms. Simpleton admits that she is not much of a disciplinarian. So I ask if he is punished when he skips school. Ms. Simpleton says that she takes his video games and tv away, but he goes and gets them. She has even sent them to a neighbor's apartment, but has awakened to him playing the game at 3 o'clock in the morning. Okay, hold the fuck up!!! You take the shit out of the apartment and he has the audacity to go and bring it back in and play the shit?!?!?! Big muthafuckin' balls if you ask me!!! Ms. Simpleton is basically like she doesn't know what to do. It's his "disability". And get this, she wants us (his teachers) to allow him to make up work when he skips because she believes that he skips because of his "disability". WTF????? How many times are these people going to tell your simple ass that your son DOES NOT have a disability??? But then, how are you going to tell me the whole story of him skipping and then ask me (with a straight face) to act like I didn't know that he was home playing Socom 3???? You must have a fuckin' disability!!!
Now I understand that everyone doesn't believe in corporal punishment and that's cool too. If you raise them right, you shouldn't have to beat the hell out of them. However, I must say that if he was my child - that ass would have been mine the first time he stayed home from school. Even if you are not into spanking or physical punishment, children still need to understand that their are consequences for negative behavior. That is what enrages me about this! 1 out of 4 black males in the US is some how tied up in the criminal justice system. In DC, that statistic is 1 in 2. That's half! It is dangerous for a young black male to think that he can get away with doing whatever he wants to do. Shit! I'm grown and I can't do whatever the fuck I want to do, whenevr I want to do it without consequences. Plus, I am pissed that she can't see that is why he does it - because he can get away with it. That is just human behavior. We do what we know works; whatever we can get away with.
Now, I know that I have chick, nor child so maybe I'm a little off with this. If you think I am not looking at this correctly, feel free to pull me up. If you have children, please comment and if you have suggestions please share them. Ms. Simpleton is looking to me for help with this and I have not a clue b/c I think she is the real problem.
I don't want to spoil it because I know most of you haven't seen this week's Flava in Love, but I am watching this shit right now. What the fuck is up with this chick Hottie, the trick that said that her friends tell her that she looks like Beyonce (bitch puhleeeeese)??? This girl takes the muthafuckin' cake!!! I have never seen a weave as bad as the one that this chick has on national tv!!! Now you will see some fucked up weaves when you venture into certain parts of the city. BUT DAMN!!! Maybe it's not even a weave. Maybe it's a wig that she decided to butcher and grease down like a fuckin' pig. I don't know. All I know is I haven't seen shit like this in a while. I am going to search for a picture of this fool ass gal. You have too see this shit to believe it.
Now as for Flav, I won't comment just yet as to not give away too many details. But I might have to add this nignog to my Coons for Cash list. This shit is definitely crazy, half past hilarious and quite riniggalous! We won't even go into how these grown ass black women are acting the plum ass fool on national TV. All I'll say for now is You's a simple bitch, to evah think, that you could cook a damn raw ass, whole chicken in a microwave.
I hope everyone is having a good weekend. I need a little blog therapy today, so bare with me. I found out some shit that really disturbs me. Let me share it with y'all, and y'all tell me what you think. Okay, first you will need a little background info. My father's ex-wife (we'll call her J) and I are real cool. We weren't always cool, however. When I was younger and she was married to my father I couldn't stand her ass because she was mean as fuck. She resented me for being my father's child from another woman, and she also felt that I got more shine from our family members than her children. But now that I am no longer a threat to her or her children because she is no longer with my father, shit is all good. Well J is 41 y/o. She has a decent gov't. job, but she has $$$ problems. Every, and when I say every I mean EVERY, place that she has rented in the past 15 years (no exaggeration) has ended in her getting evicted or moving right before they got evicted. She is one of those people who will get her hair or nails done or go on a trip with her rent money. Well J used to be a member of a very small Pentacostal church, where the members were so close that they were like extended family members to one another. One of the members has a daughter who is my age. We will call her Ty. Now Ty has four children that she doesn't live with and rarely sees. As a matter of fact, one of her children's fathers took her on talk show for being such a sorry ass mom. Ty is basically a hood ass chick who spends her time chasing men and chasing ways to come up on $$$. She doesn't have a job, but will occasionally do hair for a little bit of cash. Well Ty has been living with J for the past six weeks. Ty is messing with some guy named Tony. Tony asks Ty if she can find someone who can cash a few money orders that he has come up on. Ty asks J if she can cash them because J belongs to a credit union. J obliges and cashes the money orders to the tune of $11,000, over two separate transactions. Now the shocker, especially to J, is the money orders were stolen! (insert stupid ass, shocked smiley here LOL) J's credit union calls her out on it a week later. She tells them that she was cashing them for someone else, but all she knows is that the person's name is Tony. J asks Ty for Tony's info, but Ty says that all she knows is that his name is Tony and that she doesn't know how to get in contact with him. So basically, J is the only one who is going down for the crime. And now get this, she saw ZERO dollars from the whole deal. She was arrested on her good gov't. job on Friday for the deed.
Now, once again, I need to know if it's just me. How in the hell could any grown ass person with half a brain not know that the money orders were stolen?!?!?! Why would they need a total stranger to cash them if everything was legit??? OK, and then to know that you are behind in your rent and you don't get a damn thing for putting your ass on the line????? Now that is some stupid ass shit. J, of course, is now crying "woe is me". Every time I try to help somebody ....yadda...yadda....yadda And this is the killer for me. Ty's shit is still in J's house. She is actually still letting the girl live with her! Fucking amazing!!! Now this bitch is going to sit back and let you go down for some shit and you will still let her stay in your house damn near rent free????
Now people who know me tease me for being a little prissy, "proper" speaking, and occasionally a snob. But don't get it twisted. Hood shit is always around me because of my family/extended family. I can't escape it! And it helps to keep me grounded and focused. I have grown to love J, but it is highly unlikely that she will ever rise because she just doesn't think. She ALWAYS partcipates in the game that plays herself! This is just one of many Dumb Ass J stories. I'll have to share a few others with you guys.
D- Said It@ ::
10:25 AM ::
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Happy Friday to ya! Feelin' good, feelin' great, how are you? I am so glad that the weekend is upon us. I live for the weekend!!! Every single radio station in DC and B-more that is marketed to the urban crowd between the ages of 10 and 50 has been talking about Cam'ron's Jay-Z dis song. If you are not familiar with it and you care, stop be Eskay's and check it out.
I am a loyal fan to President Carter so you can pretty much fill in the blanks for what I think about Mr. Giles' new publicity stunt. I did find something interesting involving J on You Tube (my new favorite place), however. I may be late, but I had never seen this. I wonder why it never made it into mainstream existence. Maybe it reveals too much about his personal relationships. I would love to hear what others think.
